​'Shepherding the Emotionally Destructive Marriage Webinar' 

There are some tips in this video that may help you deal with the issue if you are a church or ministry group leader. Although it is no secret that these issues are in our homes, churches and communities, often they are left unattended and eventually lead to divorce. If we can obtain the relevant tools to help those who are in need of such help, then we (the body of Christ) can be that light shining into the dark areas of our society. 


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'The Emotionally Destructive Marriage Webinar'

The issue of emotionally destructive marriages is in our homes, churches and communities. This video may help you if you believe you are in an emotionally destructive marriage or if you are a church leader facing these issues in your fellowship but simply do not know how to respond.  You may also relate to this form of destructive pattern in other relationships and can get tips on how to deal with the issue. Unhealthy relationships can contribute to unhealthy minds and bodies. 

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Marriage was designed by God and is the first institution. Therefore, it is our first ministry (to those of us who are married) and as well as being able to obtain the help needed when we need it, we should also be in a position to provide that help to those who are in need. A breakdown in our marriages will effectively have a domino effect on other relationships.  It will affect our parenting and most definitely our effectiveness in the various ministries we are involved in outside our homes.


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The late columnist Mike Royko writes about a conversation he had with Slats Grobnik, a man who sold Christmas trees. Slats remembered one couple on the hunt for a Christmas tree. 

Slats remembered one couple on the hunt for a Christmas tree. The guy was skinny with a big Adam's apple and small chin, and she was kind of pretty. But both wore clothes from the bottom of the bin of the Salvation Army store.​

After finding only trees that were too expensive, they found a Scotch pine that was okay on one side, but pretty bare on the other. Then they picked up another tree that was not much better – full on one side, scraggly on the other. She whispered something, and he asked if $3 would be okay. Slats figured both trees would not be sold, so he agreed.

A few days later Slats was walking down the street and saw a beautiful tree in the couple's apartment. It was thick and well rounded. He knocked on their door and they told him how they worked the two trees close together where the branches were thin. Then they tied the trunks together. The branches overlapped and formed a tree so thick you couldn't see the wire. Slats described it as “a tiny forest of its own.”

“So that's the secret,” Slats asserts. “You take two trees that aren't perfect, that have flaws, that might even be homely, that maybe nobody else would want. If you put them together just right, you can come up with something really beautiful.”

Mike Royko, One More Time (University of Chicago Press, 1999), pp. 85-87

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 Contribution from Stan & Paula Boelman