Gerrit Bantjets, a Care for the Family speaker, wrote an article called, ‘Do you love him as your own?’ with the sub-title, ‘The reality of being a step-dad’. In the article, the author shared five tips ‘about bringing up step-children:
1. Be patient
2. Respect their other biological parent
3. Agree with your partner
4. Treat them as your own
5. Create new family traditions
When I first read the article I went back to my childhood where my first step-dad would bring groceries for my two sisters as part of caring for / providing for his children. He and my mother were no longer a couple. I admired that about him and wished my own father would visit like he did (even once, so I could know what it felt like to have a father and know the feeling of excitement my sisters felt when they knew their dad would visit).
A Step-Child Advises Step-Fathers